|
On
Being a Victim and Other Illusions
|
|
The same is true if our sacred contracts involve something
as deplorable by human standards as incest or some other form of sexual
trauma. In the spirit realm
there is no judgment of any kind. Everything
is viewed from a place of love and the Universe creates the illusion of
these life dramas with no emotional attachment.
It is the human ego that attaches judgment and shame to any
experience because it derives the illusion of power from this judgment.
No act is either good or bad, right or wrong in the spirit realm;
it is only the judgments our human egos create that make them so.
We choose these human lifetimes precisely so we can have the wide
range of emotions we would otherwise not know firsthand.
Without these emotions that accompany the human experience, we
would not be able to pierce the illusions the Universe creates for us in
order to learn the lessons we choose, such as self-love.
Humans are addicted to shame and the children who
experience sexual trauma feel compelled by shame to keep the family
secret of the violation. They
derive the illusion of power from the secret they hold and even
arrogance from the mantle of victimization they carry throughout life
from this illusion. If there is human trauma in a child’s life, he or she
carries the illusion of being a victim and remains at the emotional age
the trauma occurred, even though physically an adult.
This is also true of perpetrators who are, virtually always,
wounded children in adult clothing who continue to hold the illusion and
victim energy from their own sexual trauma.
When the child clings to the notion of being either victim or
perpetrator, he or she will never be functional in human terms until, as
an adult, he or she learns to re-parent the inner children who carry
this shame and victim energy. To transmute the energy of the event and
see it as the gift it is, rather than the violation ego would have them
believe it is. Unless they
are able to do this, these traumatized humans will continue to hold the
illusion both of being victims and of gaining power as a result. The reality of the illusion, of course, is that there are
no victims, only volunteers. It
is impossible to do anything without the express knowledge and agreement
of Creator. On the spiritual
level we understand that every experience has value because it is
provided with love by the Universe to help us learn.
There can be no victims because we are all volunteers by virtue
of our sacred contracts. As long as we are in these human bodies, we will experience
all the pain, trauma and emotions inherent to them.
From the spiritual perspective, however, in order for us to
evolve, we must live the life of extremes to learn the life of balance.
We can never ascend to a level that is higher proportionately
than the depths to which we are willing to descend.
The more challenging the lesson, the greater the opportunity we
have for spiritual growth. Challenging
lessons will always be part of our human dramas; how we choose to view
them will determine our life experiences.
We can choose love and gratitude for our opportunity to learn or
fear and the illusion of being a victim.
It reminds me of an old Cherokee proverb. A
Native American grandfather was teaching his grandson about life: “I feel as if I have two wolves fighting in my heart,”
the chief said to the boy. “One
wolf is evil—he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance,
self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride,
superiority, self-doubt and ego. The
other wolf is good—he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility
kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and
faith.” The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked
his grandfather, “Which wolf will win the fight in your heart?” The old chief replied, “The one that I feed.” As with everything in this earth experience, we have a
choice. We can choose love
or fear. Neither choice is
right or wrong, but they will result in decidedly different experiences
that determine which path our journey on earth will follow.
Which wolf will you choose to feed?
It is for
each of us to decide. Peace.
|